An insight; why gaining weight in recovery from anorexia is so hard.
I’m going to break this down into three sections: physical,
psychological and social. They all hold their weight in the difficulties in
recovery from anorexia (pun unintended)
Physical; if you’ve been through recovery, you’ll know. But I’m writing
this to help people who are fortunate enough to have never faced this, to give
them an insight into the physical challenges in recovery.
- In
the immediate stages, there is a high risk of ‘refereeing syndrome’. This
is a condition where if you increase your intake too quickly, you’re at
risk of death to put it bluntly. When you’re body has been starved it starts
to eat at the muscle, and therefore suddenly acting apt more food can
cause a dangerous shift in the electrolytes and risk of heart attack is
high. To get through this stage which can last a good couple of weeks,
takes frequent bloods tests, sometimes medical hospitalisation due to the
number of observations needed and the frequency of such, a whole host of
medications to keep your blood levels out of danger. (so, ironically,
telling a skinny girl to ‘go eat a burger’ is literally impossible and
very dangerous, another reason no one should ever be so naïve to say such
a thing).
- When
you start to eat more, your body basically goes ape shit. This goes on for
months. Severe bloating and pain like nothing you’ll ever imagine. Night
sweats, your metabolism going into overdrive, blood sugar crashes etc. It
takes a while for your body to trust that you are actually going to keep
feeding it this time, and it’s a battle back and forth.
- When
you do start to restore weight, it doesn’t go on evenly. The vast majority
goes straight to your stomach, which for me was the part of my body I was
very self-conscious about anyway. It goes there to protect your organs
because your body is saying ‘this is a life and death situation so we need
to protect your vital organs first’. Makes sense, yes. But try living with
the fight in your head that you know you have to put on weight but all of
it is going to the place you are most self conscious of. It feels like
your worst fears are being confirmed. It’s hard. Being a whole different
clothes size around your waist, compared to any other part of your body,
is hard.
Psychological
- the
battle in your mind when you try to eat more, but you have this illness
screaming at you that you are huge and disgusting and all your deepest
darkest fears will come true if you eat and get healthy... that battle is
indescribable.
- An
eating disorder literally takes over your whole brain and every thought.
It makes you obsess and it is compulsive. There’s no such thing as a
healthy thought at this stage. Every thought is the illness, and you have
to learn to not trust yourself. Which is HARD. You know that voice in your
head; basically your thoughts? That tell you what to do and when? You
can’t trust that. Everything is says is a lie. Everything your eyes show
you is a lie.
- Anxiety
overloads and massive mood crashes are common. Mixed in with the physical
sensations which can send anyone overboard. I couldn’t describe this if I
tried but, it is awful.
- The
obsession with food takes up every inch of your mind. It’s your survival
instincts kicking in; if all your mind let’s you think about is food,
maybe you’ll eat (and stay alive...). This obsession never stops until you
reach a healthier weight. It’s when you sleep. It’s when you’re awake.
It’s all you can focus on.
- There
are SO MANY thoughts with this illness. The battle between rational and
irrational voices, the delusions that the illness induces. The distress
like no other. The compulsions. The OCD. The suicidal thoughts.
Social;
- imagine
trying to battle through all of this and be surrounded by a culture
constantly talking about diet and weight loss. Every aisle in the shops
being stocked with diet plans and slimming pills. Mannequins in shops
being less than size 0 and the constant drill and drone of the next damn
diet. It’s like taking a recovering alcoholic to a pub and dangling a
drink in front of them.
- The
fact that recovery is so damn tiring, literally, because your body
overcompensates from being run into the ground. Energy levels are sparse
and the battle alone in your mind is enough to leave you physically and
emotionally drained.
- People
not understanding. People assuming you’re better because you’re eating
more. People being naive about the power of an eating disorder.
- Having
to go out and socialise, especially when you’re feeling so self conscious,
is hard. Thinking the whole world can see every ounce of weight you’ve
gained and feeling like you want to hide.
This is by no means reasons to not recover. Because despite this small
insight into the pain that recovery can bring, trust me when I tell you, what
an eating disorder brings is 100X worse. Maybe that’s a topic for later
date.
Thankfully, I could write a list longer than this about all the things
recovery had brought me that makes it worth it. But that doesn’t take away from
the pain.
So why I’m trying to say is; I will always hold the upmost respect for
anyone recovering from an eating disorder. Is it the battle for your life, that
can last months or even years. It is worth it, my gosh one day when I’m
completely free from this illness I know it’ll be worth it. But it is hard.
If you are affected by any of the issues we discuss in our blog please seek help from your GP or for more urgent help call Samaritans on 116123
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