I am giving you permission.

You need to read this.

Sometimes you just need permission to not mourn the person you were before. Before a mental health issue, before a tragedy, before growing up. This might sound like a really strange concept, but it has taken me a long time to come to terms that things will not be the same as they used to be; because that is a key part of progress. People can talk about you getting back to ‘normal’ but it that doesn’t erase what has happened. You learn from it. You develop into the person you are. And you MUST remember that where you are now, is not permanent, and things will continue to improve, even if it does not seem so now. So don’t bother aspiring to be who you once were, but the new and improved version who is building in confidence and can use their experience in a positive way. 

Do not measure your success on other people’s timelines. Everyone does everything differently, so if you don’t feel like going to uni straight from school, don’t! Take some time to figure yourself out first. If you haven’t found a significant other, don’t worry they’re on their way. If you want to work and go on holidays, bloody do it. Because you shouldn’t dare to live your life, because IT IS YOURS so just do it. 

Stand up for yourself, take no bullshit from other people. Tell me that a year ago and I wouldn’t have believed you, but thinking like this has changed my life. I assume that everyone has the best interests, and if they feel it is their place to share controversial opinions, challenge them, because yours deserve to be heard too. For example, there was an incident where an individual I know needed privacy and medical attention, and after clearing the room of people, those people were more bothered about their belongings than the wellbeing of the individual. And I was massively frustrated at this, but you must think that that is a reflection of their personality, and if that is how they want to think and behave then let them, because it will not get them anywhere. Kindness is free, but makes the most difference to anyone. So don’t take it for granted and spread some if you can. 

Especially now at Christmas!

A massive thank you to everyone who is supporting us, reading our blog and participating in fundraising events for our trip to Bali. Our latest endeavour is tie dye tops which are selling for £5 each and £2 postage if required! 

We chose to do tie dye because it represents the individuality and complexity of the mind, and how each one is unique to each person. We love them and we hope you do too. So if you would like one, message me (Harri) on instagram or email harriet.broom@btinternet.com!