Obsessive compulsive tendencies – so much more than just being ‘neat’.
When I was 14, along with anorexia and other mental health
diagnosis, I was diagnosed with ‘obsessive compulsive tendencies’. This diagnosis
is, in simple terms, my battle with obsessive compulsive behaviours, but not
severe enough for a full blown diagnosis. Over the last 9 years, it’s something
I have both been controlled by, but also managed to get control over. It’s a
rollercoaster for me, it is closely related to my anorexia and anxiety, peaking
and troughing at similar times.
So what does it actually mean to struggle with OCT? IT’s not
being neat, or tidy, and it’s not being obsessively clean. My first memories of
these intrusive thoughts in my head go way back, further than 14 years old. For
as long as I can remember, intrusive thoughts have captured me in moments, compelling
me to use an action to relieve anxiety. Thoughts include people I love dying,
getting ill or getting hurt. But they also include how I feel, routines and
rituals. Having to switch a light switch on twice, having to touch that tree on
that walk, having to walk down the stairs to come back up them. I know it doesn’t
make any sense to anyone else, but to me it did. When I was struggling with it
when I was this young, I had no idea how disordered it was. I never told
anyone, I hid it, I pushed it down.
So, if this has been going on for so long, why did I pinpoint
turning 14? When I was 14 I was also diagnosed with anorexia, and my OCD at
that time became utterly unmanageable. It blurred so violently that it became consuming.
Rituals took hours, they meant I didn’t sleep, they became more secretive and
more compelling. My psychologist at the time was the first person to notice,
and the first person I spoke to about what was happening in my head. I was put
on medication to try and manage my OCT and the anxiety that came with them, and
I had CBT to tackle it alongside.
In many ways, I managed to stabilise… for a few years. When I
was 19, I was in a general medical hospital for over 4 weeks. In this time, my
family went to America. The intrusive thoughts and compulsive behaviours lived
with a vengeance in my mind, and they made absolutely no sense. Ill give you
one example to help explain: I was using my ipad to distract me from the horrible
place I was in, but when the time on the video hit 1:27 minutes, I had to stop,
rewind and replay it four times. If I couldn’t get the timing right (which is
hard to do when swiping the rewind bar on a small ipad), I had to start the
process all over again. If I let it go past 1:27 without completing (fully)
this ritual, my family would die on the aeroplane when coming back from America.
I know, it makes no sense. But it did to me. In those four weeks, the anxiety
and intrusive thoughts became so overwhelming I tried to run away, hitting my
head against walls to try and get the voices and thoughts to STOP. They had to
triple my medication to sedate me, having security around to ensure I kept
safe. It was terrifying, and I couldn’t explain to anyone what was happening.
Again, after a month or so I received CBT to challenge these
thoughts in my head, and a mixture of that and the medication meant things
settled down.
However, the recent weeks with covid-19 has seen a drastic
spike once again. This time, the thoughts are around Hugo. It currently takes
me over an hour to go to bed, and settle in bed to go to sleep. As soon as I try
to lie down and rest, I become panicked that I’ve left Hugo outside. I get
intrusive images of him in the dark, cold and crying. Then I think of him there
all night, being attacked by wild animals and waking up to him dead. It’s
causing me so much anxiety that I get up and check and check and check he is
inside. Mum and dad text me before they’ve gone to bed to reassure me he is
inside, but it’s not enough. I have to check myself. Up and down for over an
hour; and still not settling. 2am comes, 3am comes. I wake up suddenly and
think he’s outside, as if by magic he has opened the door and let himself out. I
get up, go downstairs and check on him again. Fast asleep, peaceful, unaware of
my panic over him overnight. My anxiety around him has slowly seeped into the
daytime, I’m terrified of taking him on a different walk than the 3 I rotate
around each week. There could be cattle grids, fast roads, broken branches,
vicious dogs. I am constantly terrified he will hurt himself and ill lose him.
I think that’s the worst part of all of this… it uses the things you care about
most; making it impossible to ignore.
The problem with OCT is there is no way around it; you have
to challenge the anxiety and the intrusive thoughts. The more you avoid it, or
listen to them, the harder it gets to break them. I know right now, I am
shattered from the anxiety its causing me. I also have no idea what’s triggered
it off so badly, again; but am fully aware I need to tackle it head on… which
is scar and exhausting.
It scares me that I know I will battle these flare ups for
the rest of my life. It’s the way my brain works; its one of its maladaptive
functions that I need to learn how to react to.
So a massive shoutout to anyone who struggles with obsessive
compulsive tendencies. It is a battle, it is a war; the ultimate manipulation where
you brain uses the fact you love and care to torture you.
Keep strong, keep talking to those you love about what is
happening in your mind. Don’t let it control you. My DM’s are always open,
Fi x
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